As I read your chapter I realized that it is common to the human experience to feel like a bird with a broken wing, and to try to compensate with mechanisms.
Those mechanisms become a part of our identity until we realize that we' ve got the reasoning wrong and re write the narrative to release the ghosts.
It is not until then that we get rid of the suffering that comes with it.
This is a beautiful chapter to read. I felt like you took my hand and invite me to dive into the deep and scary dark waters of the ocean of my mind.
With each paragraph my mind became lighter and felt easy.
I needed to know this information that you delivered, which feels like a gentle breeze.
I do compare myself to others and my challenge has been to see myself as equal ( I was the scapegoat child at home).
I thougth one of the roots would be the fact of being afraid of the consequences of a dysfunctional childhood that took a toll on my psiquis and emotions,which is true. I also thougth there was something more to it but could not pinpoint what it was.
This chapter was written in a compassionate way, helped me to see my shadows -comparing is an habit that is hard to observe, cringe me a bit- gave me the information needed to start correcting the wrong narrative; and make me feel relaxed during the process, like a soap bubble floating careless and free.
Thank you Olivia to share all these words of wisdom that not only came from your experience but most important from your heart. I was also used to be shy and awkward in my childhood and youth and often felt like being left, I understand that.
I love the way that you are so honest when you write, that element put much more interest in the read and makes that more people can identify with what they reading. When you read these paragraphs feels like a journey that you run In the company of someone who is like any one of us because has gone through the same pain as each of us, it can become an addictive element when you read, because you can feel save guide by the hand of someone who is like you I really like how the book is developing.
What I just read I had to comment on. It makes so much sense what your saying but I could never understand or put into words. I too had bad relations with girls at school, ate lunch in the bathroom, and spent my whole life over-spending on makeup & skincare to try to boost my self esteem. Thinking if I was pretty enough or had the best, newest "whatever" at the time id be liked and would have more friends. Obviously this theory doesn't work and put my family in A LOT of debt. Anyways, I'm SO excited to read more. I'm tired of the self help section of Amazon. Olivia I literally can't wait. You inspire me. Thank you for all you do.
I found this much more challenging a read then chapter 1. I enjoyed and agreed with the overall proposition but there seemed to be a disconnect between the 1st two paragraphs and the following ones. Was there something in the books and courses you read in your twenties that drove directly or indirectly to judging others as a way to increase self-esteem? (I just got a little lost here and could use some help with the connection).
In paragraphs 2 and 3 I could not think of anything but social media, I think I was on Facebook for about 6 months before closing my account, the reason I closed my account was I had a number of friends on there that I knew had serious issues and challenges they were struggling with but you would never know by what was shown on their Facebook accounts, then I noticed I never saw anything on Facebook that was not a spectacular event, party, activity or trip someone was on that is when I decided that it was nothing but an image that people thought they had to portray.
In the paragraph where you talk about beating around the bush I could think of nothing but the concept from action science of "easing in" and it is a total time suck - I enjoyed the point being make.
In reading the 3rd to last paragraph it struck me that we often talk about being worthy and successful but rarely define what that means to us and default to societal definitions of these concepts, think if we spent the time to define what it means to us and maybe even what it means to the 10 year old us we would be better off.
Thank you! I really appreciate your detailed feedback! We judge people, it simply happens to increase our own sense of importance. So it's not about what I read, I will elaborate on this more in the book.
Social media is a perfect example of this, how we portray ourselves to others!
Never heard of easing in. What exactly is it?
In here, the beating around the bush is more about overthikning, rehearsing conversation in the head, and overall spending time trying to convince others that we are good people.
What if worth was just a concept? nothing real? A trap of the ego to keep on searching and striving..
Beautifully written! I like how you establish baselines of shared understanding and empathy with your readers, telling your own story and courageously calling out the erroneous solutions that run mainstream and that almost (?) everybody can relate to.
As I read your chapter I realized that it is common to the human experience to feel like a bird with a broken wing, and to try to compensate with mechanisms.
Those mechanisms become a part of our identity until we realize that we' ve got the reasoning wrong and re write the narrative to release the ghosts.
It is not until then that we get rid of the suffering that comes with it.
This is a beautiful chapter to read. I felt like you took my hand and invite me to dive into the deep and scary dark waters of the ocean of my mind.
With each paragraph my mind became lighter and felt easy.
I needed to know this information that you delivered, which feels like a gentle breeze.
I do compare myself to others and my challenge has been to see myself as equal ( I was the scapegoat child at home).
I thougth one of the roots would be the fact of being afraid of the consequences of a dysfunctional childhood that took a toll on my psiquis and emotions,which is true. I also thougth there was something more to it but could not pinpoint what it was.
This chapter was written in a compassionate way, helped me to see my shadows -comparing is an habit that is hard to observe, cringe me a bit- gave me the information needed to start correcting the wrong narrative; and make me feel relaxed during the process, like a soap bubble floating careless and free.
Thank you Olivia to share all these words of wisdom that not only came from your experience but most important from your heart. I was also used to be shy and awkward in my childhood and youth and often felt like being left, I understand that.
I love the way that you are so honest when you write, that element put much more interest in the read and makes that more people can identify with what they reading. When you read these paragraphs feels like a journey that you run In the company of someone who is like any one of us because has gone through the same pain as each of us, it can become an addictive element when you read, because you can feel save guide by the hand of someone who is like you I really like how the book is developing.
What I just read I had to comment on. It makes so much sense what your saying but I could never understand or put into words. I too had bad relations with girls at school, ate lunch in the bathroom, and spent my whole life over-spending on makeup & skincare to try to boost my self esteem. Thinking if I was pretty enough or had the best, newest "whatever" at the time id be liked and would have more friends. Obviously this theory doesn't work and put my family in A LOT of debt. Anyways, I'm SO excited to read more. I'm tired of the self help section of Amazon. Olivia I literally can't wait. You inspire me. Thank you for all you do.
Awww, that's really amazing to hear, thank you so much for sharing your experience too!
I found this much more challenging a read then chapter 1. I enjoyed and agreed with the overall proposition but there seemed to be a disconnect between the 1st two paragraphs and the following ones. Was there something in the books and courses you read in your twenties that drove directly or indirectly to judging others as a way to increase self-esteem? (I just got a little lost here and could use some help with the connection).
In paragraphs 2 and 3 I could not think of anything but social media, I think I was on Facebook for about 6 months before closing my account, the reason I closed my account was I had a number of friends on there that I knew had serious issues and challenges they were struggling with but you would never know by what was shown on their Facebook accounts, then I noticed I never saw anything on Facebook that was not a spectacular event, party, activity or trip someone was on that is when I decided that it was nothing but an image that people thought they had to portray.
In the paragraph where you talk about beating around the bush I could think of nothing but the concept from action science of "easing in" and it is a total time suck - I enjoyed the point being make.
In reading the 3rd to last paragraph it struck me that we often talk about being worthy and successful but rarely define what that means to us and default to societal definitions of these concepts, think if we spent the time to define what it means to us and maybe even what it means to the 10 year old us we would be better off.
Hope this is helpful in someway, take care. Steve
Thank you! I really appreciate your detailed feedback! We judge people, it simply happens to increase our own sense of importance. So it's not about what I read, I will elaborate on this more in the book.
Social media is a perfect example of this, how we portray ourselves to others!
Never heard of easing in. What exactly is it?
In here, the beating around the bush is more about overthikning, rehearsing conversation in the head, and overall spending time trying to convince others that we are good people.
What if worth was just a concept? nothing real? A trap of the ego to keep on searching and striving..
Beautifully written! I like how you establish baselines of shared understanding and empathy with your readers, telling your own story and courageously calling out the erroneous solutions that run mainstream and that almost (?) everybody can relate to.
Here goes a confidence boost to continue going ;)